While everyone’s lives are greatly affected by this pandemic and quarantine, some in your MC may particularly struggle during this time. Those who already experience anxiety and depression may be in an especially hard place right now. Those who generally don’t experience these struggles may experience them for the first time. We want to help you as a leader care for yourself and your people well in this unique moment.
Find out how people are doing by asking specific questions that draw out what's going on in their heart. Especially for those who seem to be shrinking back, this should ususally be done one-on-one with two people of the same gender. Some examples include:
- What do you find yourself worrying about these days?
- In times of worry, where do you turn?
- How is your relationship with your spouse/kids?
- How is your relationship with your roommates and friends?
Remember, being open and honest about emotional struggle is hard! If you go first in sharing about your struggles, that often makes others feel safe to reciprocate by sharing theirs.
Depending on the person's response, you will need to discern how equipped you feel in walking them through this struggle. You are not alone in serving your MC members well! If the situation is beyond your comfort level, we have a team of servants who are here to help. Here are some options:
- Reach out to your coach for support
- Direct the person to pastor office hours
- Encourage the person to fill out the gospel shepherding intake form
- If you need further direction, please contact Pastor Alex at [email protected]
Regardless of which resource you choose to utilize, be sure to check in with your person a few days later to see how they're doing. Continue to check back in with them to let them know you are praying for them and are there to listen and support them.
If you want to learn more about mental health and anxiety, check out these resources:
Readings on Anxiety
Addressing the head, heart and hands
Pandemic resources from BiblicalCounseling.com
COVID-19 resources from Christian Counseling and Education Forum